The Way You Talk To Your Children Can Either Make Them Or Break Them

The way you talk to your child can either make or break them

Research has shown that children that experience negative talk are more prone to low self-esteem, social aggression, bullying and  vulnerable to negative moods. What I have leaned from teaching children with autism is that a more effective way to  discipline a child is to use positive phrases and effective speaking to improve listening and lessen misbehavior.  

For an example:

• When a child is having a tantrum for probably having a hard time to finish a difficult task instead of saying -this is nothing to be upset about you can maybe say I see it's hard let me help you.
• When are child is crying for a cookie before finishing their food instead of saying - no you can not get the cookie you can probably  try to negotiate  that they have ten spoons of their food or finish their food and they will get the cookie.

We underestimate how speaking negatively to children can have an impact on them not only does it ruin your relationship with your children but they also tend to think that it's the right way of speaking and acting.

Why is it important to speak positively to your children?

1. Speaking positively to children will improve your bond: when you speak with kindness to you children, it will strengthen your relationship and bring you closer together.
2. Your child is more likely to listen to you: when you speak with a calm positive tone they are most likely to comply.
3. Your child will be more respectful: children learn more from behavior. When you speak in a respectful way they start being polite towards other people and their peers.